Home > Emotional Issues > Celebrating a Child's Life

Celebrating a Child's Life

By: Beth Morrisey MLIS - Updated: 12 Jan 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
Death child’s Death death Of A Child

The death of a child can be particularly painful for family and friends especially adults who feel that they should not have outlived such a young person. The death of a child is often equated to the loss of a future, or the loss of all of the possibilities for that child’s life. Though this loss may seem overwhelming, many families find ways to celebrate a child’s life and remember the special place that that child held in their lives and hearts.

Special Touches at the Funeral

Though most funeral services or ceremonies follow a particular order and include certain components, there are many special touches that the family can include in order to celebrate the life of their child. Flower arrangements shaped like animals or favourite characters, pictures of the child at different stages of his or her life, sentimental items such as special blankets, toys or books placed in the coffin, favourite songs sung or performed during the service, and even special readings or poems composed or read by the child’s peers can all be integrated into a funeral service for a child. Working with a professional funeral director or a member of the clergy may help to decide what is appropriate and special for the child.

Memorial Services for a Child

Some bereaved families may be unable to personalise a funeral service for their child, but may decide to hold a memorial service at a later time, such as the child’s birthday or the anniversary of his or her death. The details of the memorial service – date, time, place, guests, order of service, etc. – will be up to the family to decide, though there may be certain restrictions placed on them due to the venue. Commemorating a child’s life in this way often gives family and friends a chance to truly celebrate all that was loved about the child, and all that the child loved, and may help the bereaved achieve a sense of closure or calm following the child’s death.

Remembering the Child

Though no child will be forgotten following his or her death, many families make a special effort to remember their child in a certain way. Some families choose to make a donation in the child’s name, such as to the child’s school or to a medical research fund, start a commemorative event, such as an annual fundraiser or fun run in the child’s name, make a special trip, such as to a location beloved by the child, or create their own family tradition, such as special activities on the child’s birthday or the anniversary of his or her death. Groups of which the child was a member, for example school classes, athletic teams and/or religious congregations, may also wish to be involved in these special remembrances or may invite the child’s family to help them with their own plans.

Celebrating a child’s life is often a bittersweet endeavour, and possibly one that family and friends may not be ready to carry out for a period of time after his or her death. There is no set method for celebrating a child’s life, and family and friends should simply let their own love for the child guide them in their preparations.

You might also like...
Share Your Story, Join the Discussion or Seek Advice..
First off condolences on the death of your precious child. You are never the same after the death of a child, especially when your innocent decision led to tragedy.But a larger question is whether you can forgive yourself. Even though it was clearly an accident, we sometimes have a way of holding ourselves accountable for such tragic events. As a Christian I would pour out my broken heart to the One who made each of us. Accept his comfort and forgiveness, then seek counseling to assist moving forward. If you had a strong marriage before this tragedy you certainly can come through this stronger. Many times these events either strengthen a strong marriage or destroy a weak one. Your wife is deeply grieving and may need a lot of time and space. Patience may help her conquer this threatening monster that would claim her future. Whatever the eventuality of your marriage, YOU determine the quality of your life going forward. I hope you both get the professional help you need to become whole again. Blessings on the future you create.
Joy - 12-Jan-17 @ 3:31 AM
Judicious- Your Question:
My son and I were hit by a train that somehow I didn't see and pull in front of. My 9yo son died instantly now my wife hates me will she ever forgive me?

Our Response:
How terrible. We really can't say whether your wife will forgive you. We suggest counselling to start with, but it will be very long and painful process for you both. Take care
FacingBereavement - 18-Sep-15 @ 2:36 PM
My son and I were hit by a train that somehow I didn't see and pull in front of.My 9yo son died instantly now my wife hates me will she ever forgive me?
Judicious - 16-Sep-15 @ 11:07 PM
Share Your Story, Join the Discussion or Seek Advice...
Title:
(never shown)
Firstname:
(never shown)
Surname:
(never shown)
Email:
(never shown)
Nickname:
(shown)
Comment:
Validate:
Enter word:
Latest Comments
  • Gilly
    Re: Inheriting Property
    Hi my mum has not long passed away and in her will she left me everything including the house which I lived in as well as her carer. I have…
    27 May 2017
  • FacingBereavement
    Re: What if There is No Will?
    Eldest.child - Your Question:Hi my mom died in 2009, I moved out of family home when I started my own family and my youngest brother…
    26 May 2017
  • Scared
    Re: Inheriting Property
    I lived with my grandmother for several years before she passed now the hospital wants to sell the house to pay bills that me and my whole…
    26 May 2017
  • Eldest.child
    Re: What if There is No Will?
    Hi my mom died in 2009, I moved out of family home when I started my own family and my youngest brother also moved out years ago, my…
    24 May 2017
  • Cat
    Re: The Stages of Grief
    My dad just passed away 3 week ago, I was with him when he died. Everyone asks how I feel and I feel nothing! I thought that sorting funeral…
    23 May 2017
  • FacingBereavement
    Re: What if There is No Will?
    Jlaura - Your Question:My mam has passed away and my step dad, which had left my mam and had been having an affair, but they are still…
    23 May 2017
  • Beez84
    Re: Inheriting Property
    My father recently passed away and he owned a house with his partner not married he payed towards the mortgage each month and paid the deposit…
    22 May 2017
  • Beez84
    Re: Inheriting Property
    Hi My dad has just passed away and he lived with his partner not married and they owned a house but his name was not ok the mortgage but he…
    22 May 2017
  • FacingBereavement
    Re: How Grief Affects Your Relationships
    Seanda - Your Question:My mom died in a very tragic car accident March 20th my husband really dont understand how I feel…
    22 May 2017
  • Jlaura
    Re: What if There is No Will?
    My mam has passed away and my step dad, which had left my mam and had been having an affair, but they are still married he is next of…
    22 May 2017
Further Reading...
Our Most Popular...
Add to my Yahoo!
Add to Google
Stumble this
Add to Twitter
Add To Facebook
RSS feed
You should seek independent professional advice before acting upon any information on the FacingBereavement website. Please read our Disclaimer.