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Coping with Multiple Deaths

By: Beth Morrisey MLIS - Updated: 16 Sep 2019 | comments*Discuss
 
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It’s hard enough to cope with one death, but when multiple deaths occur at the same time or in close succession it can be downright overwhelming. When many deaths occur at the same time it may be under traumatic or accidental circumstances, and the shock of the surrounding events can lead to even greater grief. Family and friends can be invaluable for an individual trying to cope with the death or more than one loved one, but ultimately the individual alone will need to work through his or her grief in order to truly survive the trauma.

Family and Friends of the Bereaved

Family and friends of the bereaved may be suffering themselves, but pulling together to get through the days, weeks and months after the initial loss(es) is important. Helping each other to arrange funerals and/or memorials, sorting through the estates of the deceased, organising child care and meals and keeping an eye on each other to make sure that everyone is eating and sleeping is a safety net that many individuals need following the deaths of more than one loved one. If it seems that one individual is not coping as well, such as by turning to drink or drugs, violence or anger, or an inability to care for themselves or their dependents, then organising grief counselling and/or therapy immediately may be a good idea.

Surviving the Losses of Multiple Deaths

Ultimately, surviving more than one death at a time is something that each individual will need to do for him or herself. This can be even harder if one of the deaths (or more) was accidental or traumatic given the sudden and painful nature of the event(s). Allowing themselves time to grieve for each person, and recognising that grieving for multiple losses will take longer than for just one loss, is a good way for bereaved individuals to begin exploring their grief. Putting off other things for a while may even be necessary in order to grieve properly. However, individuals who begin to lose interest in life, who feel that they are being punished for something through the death of others, who find themselves feeling out of control with rage or who turn to drink or drugs to mask the pain must be honest with themselves about their behaviours. Getting help to work through their emotions, whatever they may be, is imperative.

The death of more than one loved one is a unique trauma for every individual who experiences it. However, each person who must cope with more than one death will already know inside themselves how they can best cope. If these coping mechanisms are destructive, then seeking professional help to find others is important. Family and friends can be invaluable at this time, so allowing them to help may be a way for everyone to work through their grief. If, however, a family member or friend begins to impede someone else’s grief process then discussing how this has happened and what each would like to do about it may help everyone stay on the same page during a difficult time.

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After reading some of your heartbreaking comments,I feel mine is just another sad story.....married very young 17..Iv five children...At 27 I lost my one and only brother aged 20 to suicide..Mum was never the same..my marriage was unhappy..Took me yrs to get over the loss..But people said I'm strong..My two eldest boys started to get in trouble prison ect..I stood by and gave all my support ..Divorced when the youngest was two, as their father hadied always been controlling. ..Took care of mum then dad for 6 yrs and lost both to Dementia..had councillors. ..Now in 2019 in July iv lost my son to murder....He was 43 and it's turned my whole world upside down....Iv 3 son's and one daughter left...My fear and anxiety has hit the roof..I'm also very very angry..My son was troubled And on drugs...My eldest is also a rebel...How can I ever stop this awful fear that more dreadful things are going to happen....Also their father has offered No sympathy..How could he live with himself....Griefstricken mumXN
Jan - 16-Sep-19 @ 11:07 AM
I lost my dad the day after my birthday from sepsis 8/22/19, then my grandma 18days later from cancer 9/9/19, and then last night my favorite cat passed away from being ran over by a car 9/11/19. I’m currently pregnant and due in November, In the past 20 days I’ve held the dead body’s of 3 loved ones and said my goodbyes. I’m having panic attacks now. I don’t know how much more I can deal with right now.
Tara - 12-Sep-19 @ 11:49 AM
My grandma who is my best friend and someone who I look up to passed away in April this year suffering from an illness. In June another relative passed suddenly. It was a giant shock as he had attended my Nan’s funeral and he was so healthy and happy and full of life and told me all about my Nan when she was younger how reckless but kind spirited she was. And now in September another relative had passed away on my partners side and it’s been a rough time trying to figure out what’s going on what’s happening and where I stand in all this. I just don’t know what to do. Who I am or what life is anymore. But I know I should thank the world I am still healthy and that my family will always be with me. And I have to solider on! I hope everyone on this site is able to get the help they deserve and need! And that you’re not alone and it’s hard to process these things. Sometimes things happen but we have to pull ourselves from the pits of depression and darkness and know we’re not alone! This is a time to be with family and friends and to share the people’s lives who have passed and celebrate who amazing they are and the more we share the more we feel one with them and come to terms with the heartache
Joy - 5-Sep-19 @ 11:11 AM
First, my heart goes out to everyone on this site. Although the circumstances are different, we all share in a unique and intense pain and can take some comfort that we are not alone in experiencing such pain. In March of 2017, I lost my mother in law unexpectedly. She was kep alive until we could see her to say goodbye. She was one of my best friends. Six months later my Dad passed. My mom and I had to decide to remove a ventilator and let him pass. He had suffered through a stroke for 5 years. Then in March, my brother, my hero and only sibling, fell into sepsis unexpectedly. He was in ICU for a week, in a special rotating bed and purposely paralyzed and in a medical coma but he ultimately did not recover. I was in the room with him while the team tried to restart his heart and held his hand as they said his blood pressure wasn’t holding and his death was imminent. I was with him and watched him pass from this world into another. He left behind a minor son that I had to begin working with the court system for his care and estate and the mountain of paperwork that comes with that. My mom would die 2 months later. I saw her the night before she passed and have at least the comfort that I had fixed her nightgown, covered her with her favorite blanket and pillow and knew she passed with dignity in her sleep. Lastly, my father in law died 6 months later. He moved close to us after his wife died and saw him daily. These people were our lives. We spent every holiday with them. Talked to them all nearly daily. Now, we have no support system. No one to celebrate holidays with anymore, no one to just call and say hi. We have just the 4 of us left and we are trying to build a future without them. I just try to remember my mom gave me all the skills I need to thrive. For me to not to use them is to dishonor her. She raised me well and although the pain is constant and some days debilitating, I tell myself to be patient with me and take it one day at a time and that I owe it to all of them to find a path back to happiness again. I have children, my brother has a son and that is their legacy. It is my job to make sure the family still thrives.
Kim - 22-Aug-19 @ 4:59 PM
Brother, 2012 Mom, 2015 Best friend, 2015 God mum, 2016 Dad, 2017 Brother, 2018 (last family member) Today, 2019 cousin Yeah, I'm numb....luckily I have a great hubby and 2 great grown girls.....
Tam - 21-Aug-19 @ 7:35 PM
I lost my nana on 7-15-19 and my grandfather today on 8-18-19 and it’s just so much i loved them so much but they lived in another state and i didn’t see them much. my nana was always there for me and always wanted others to be happy. my grandfather was a great man always respectful and caring. he lost his memory a few years ago though and could not remember anything. it was heartbreaking seeing him like that and him not being able to know me. i don’t know how i can handle there loses and i don’t know if i ever will be able to.
Nicholas Bierman - 19-Aug-19 @ 4:00 AM
I've never said this out loud, I divorced lost my home, & business 2014. 2015 suddenly lost my mother, a week later my aunt, a minth later my grandmother, within 3 months 2 more uncles. 2016 my father became gravely ill, had to move in with me. Lost 2 friends in 2016 while caring for my critically ill fathera full time job and school. My father passed in 2017, 3 months later my brother was diagnosed with spindle cell carcinoma, I quit my job spent my retirement to take care of my dying brother. He lived 10 months. July 12 will be 1 year since his death, I am so lost. I believe im in every stage of grief. I've been to counseling, emdr therapy( I also suffer from PTSD, from an earlier experience). I've yet to finish school, I'm struggling to pay bills, im depressed, angry, scared, unsure. Not sure how to make life work.
Jennrose78 - 30-Jun-19 @ 4:31 PM
Mum schizophrenia from my birth resulting in my having PTSD, OCD. No father. Lost nephew 2014 alcohol, Lost sister alcohol 4/11/18, Lost other sister alcohol 1/1.19. Mother having breakdown at present. I was attacked with glass recently and Police have falsely charged me. I have a court case 6-9 years if convicted. Found out earlier dog will probably have to be put down as bones crumbling. I don't know what to do anymore just want to die. Don't know if I can carry on.
Godhelpme - 11-May-19 @ 4:06 AM
I lost my mom in May, and my dad in July. They were married over 60 years. I never grieved due to my family and foolishness.A lot of jealousy due to what I was left with. Now, I don't deal with my family. I've basically disowned my family. My family acted so crazy, I wasn't able to grieve.I'm planning on getting counseling.Has anyone gone through the same? If so, what did you do?
R. B - 9-May-19 @ 3:04 AM
I lost my mother-in-law on 12/23/17, my dad on 4/2/18 (my mom's/his wife's birthday), my 27 year old niece/God daughter on 4/13/18, my brother-in-law on 5/18/18, my mom on 6/5/18, my 36 year old nephew/Godson on 2/23/19, and my one year old husky was hit by a car on 3/5/19. I can't take any more. Lost 7 of the most important lives ever in a short period of time and I can't take it.
7gone - 27-Apr-19 @ 4:01 AM
I lost my father, brother, cousin / boyfriend in a thirteen month period. My cousin helped me deal with my brothers physical abuse after my father died. My mother had mental health issues and was a verbal and emotional abuser who did nothing to stop her son. Things improved when my cousin intervened. I loved all of them regardless.My life improved. One night my cousin, brother and others went out for the night and four were killed in a horrific car accident.That is when the real night mare started.I experienced post traumatic stress, memory loss, nightmares, suicide attempt.My mother changed at night and entered a very dark place that she wanted to take me to. At the age of 16 l went to another planet to live. I suppose l could not cope with all the grief and trauma. I didn’t want to go there but l did anyway. That’s how l describe it.I lost so much of myself. I had memory loss and post traumatic stress for over 23 years. At 39 l had 3 sons and l knew their happiness was in jeopardy with me the way l was.Il had to find out what was wrong with me.I had to regain terrible memories and try and deal with what happened to me.I eventually got there.
LorraineNOT - 19-Apr-19 @ 9:32 AM
My little brother hung himself when he found his 11 month old daughter dead ,she was failure to thrive .. my mom died less than 2 months later
Pandi - 20-Mar-19 @ 10:26 PM
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Goosey - 12-Sep-18 @ 8:53 PM
I had my Grandmother, Step dad, Sister, Aunt and my best friend die within a space of six years. I don't know many people or have many friends and so the impact was even more devastating as these people were the only people in my life. I've also lost my house and almost became homeless. I find myself feeling increasingly hopeless, becoming overly sensitive and above all wanting to be silent for days on end. I want nothing out of life and long for solitude all the time although I can fake being normal and friendly quite well.
Meg - 21-Apr-18 @ 10:50 PM
My only brother shot and killed my twin 16 Year old Nieces 4-days before their 17th, Birthday and then shot and killed himself. One month later we found out my wife was in liver failure. She was only alive for 28 days and then died on our 21st, Anniversary. She died in another state waiting for a transplant and her family kept me from saying goodbye. Both my parents are dead and now i am totally alone, no family to spend the Holidays with. I have been seeing a Grief Counselor once a week and it is helping, but sometimes when i think about having no family it really scares me. I miss my Wife's great cooking and eat only enough to stay alive. I am tired all of the time and i am surprised i have made it this long. It has been 6-months since my wife died and i live alone. I am moving back to my home state in April to be closer to friends. How long is it going to take to get my life back to "Normal?"
Sprout - 19-Nov-17 @ 4:12 PM
Sherbear - Your Question:
I'm not sure what to say but I can relate to a lot of your posts to some level. Within 3 years, I lost a friend, 3 aunts ( two under the age of 61), a great uncle, my 28 year old cousin who my parents adopted when we were kids, and my Nana as of 3 months ago. ( she was 90 but was my like a mom). My 58 year old uncle just moved in with my parents' he has early onset Alzheimer's. All of this has happened on top of being a new mom and my husband losing his job and me being the financial stability. I also hate my job and my boss but I just feel frozen. I'm stunned. I used to be so happy and if I didn't have my daughter I don't know what I would be like. I've always been the strong one but I feel broken. I saw a therapist and she started losing track of people and I loathed having to tell my story over and over again when we only had 45 mins. I'm hoping for some peace soon for me and my family.

Our Response:
Oh Sherbear, we hope you find some peace soon too. What a terrible few years you've had. You have your own little family to care for now, but don't take on too much...one day at a time. Seize each little glimmer of joy each day and you'll soon find there are more of these than sad times. Take care and do seek out the support from the many amazing support organisations like Cruse
FacingBereavement - 27-Jul-17 @ 11:01 AM
I'm not sure what to say but I can relate to a lot of your posts to some level. Within 3 years, I lost a friend, 3 aunts ( two under the age of61), a great uncle, my 28 year old cousin who my parents adopted when we were kids, and my Nana as of 3 months ago. ( she was 90 but was my like a mom). My 58 year old uncle just moved in with my parents' he has early onset Alzheimer's. All of this has happened on top of being a new mom and my husband losing his job and me being the financial stability. I also hate my job and my boss but I just feel frozen. I'm stunned. I used to be so happy and if I didn't have my daughter I don't know what I would be like. I've always been the strong one but I feel broken. I saw a therapist and she started losing track of people and I loathed having to tell my story over and over again when we only had 45 mins. I'm hoping for some peace soon for me and my family.
Sherbear - 23-Jul-17 @ 4:54 AM
I am relieved to read your stories. I was not sure if I was the only one who has panic attacks so severely after the experience I have endured. This year my daughter would be 18. I have to watch kids go to prom and graduation and it cuts me deep. But her death happened along time ago. It is the more recent events that have got me feeling like I got hit by two trains. The man of my life, my love Matt died suddenly at 40 in 2016. We had just celebrated his birthday and danced the night away. We were planning on moving to California and he was going to adopt my daughter. It was perfect. My dad also died within one month of Matt 's death. My dad and him were best friends.Us three together were best friends.So I continued to work all last year picking up extra shifts and not really dealing with it very well. I would cry all night when no one was around to see. I have one friend who also lost her fiance. She was so grief stricken that she would call me some nights balling. And we would together. Becauseit is embarrassing to grieve and it is private. One night in March this year she called me and told me she would end her life. I didn't take her seriously. The next morning at work I got the call. She actually did it! I walked out of my job that I have had for over ten years. I sat in my car paralyzed and lost. I couldn't even move for hours. After that day I have had extreme panic attacks.I feel like someone is chasing me and I am running in place constantly. So it has been a few months now and I decided to visit my dying sister. She has assured me that it will be ok but she is scared to die. I really don't know how to feel anything anymore. I really don't like being around people anymore. I just want to hide in a forest somewhere. I despise counselors. I just wanted to share this with this forum because I thought maybe someone could relate.
Callyanna - 12-Jul-17 @ 4:04 PM
I am beyond grief stuck . As a nursing professional and Hospice nurse I am accustom to death and dying almost monthly . Recently though 1 have been averaging 1 a week for the last year ......These people are friends , family and support people whohave been an integral part of my life . I am doing group and one on one talk therapy but I a, in a hopeless desperate place . The very people who helped me earlier in the year are now gone. I feel like i am a curse and I am beginning to isolate and stay inside myself . Please any thoughts I am getting extremely despondent
JP - 7-Jul-17 @ 10:36 AM
Chrisse - Your Question:
I am struggling with 2 major loses in my family. My daughter too. My mom died nov 10th and 3 weeks later I found my husband in our home and he died. I don't know how to relieve this sadness and pain in my heart. My mother was my ROCK. My husband and I were married 32 years and he was my soulmate. I can't seem to concentrate or function. Depression and major anxiety are taking over. I tried to go back to work but people didn't truly understand and treated me like the plaque. I stopped working again due to pain and stress. My heart is so broken as this just happened at the end of 2016. Hard to go on day in and day out. Trying hard for the sake of my daughter but I have many panic attacks that feel like heart attacks. Tried counseling but to painful. Plus no good advise and I already know the same things they try to tell you. Need help. CJF.

Our Response:
This must be so hard for you. Have you talked to your GP? It might be worth going and telling them, especially about the panic attacks. If counselling hasn't worked, there may be other things to try such as support groups. It will be painful at first (but of everything is painful at the moment for you isn't it) but sometimes opening up to others, especially those who've experienced it themselves, might be the starting to point to being able to forward a little with your life. The CRUSE organisation is a good palce to start.
FacingBereavement - 27-Jun-17 @ 11:55 AM
I am struggling with 2 major loses in my family. My daughter too. My mom died nov 10th and 3 weeks later I found my husband in our home and he died. I don't know how to relieve this sadness and pain in my heart. My mother was my ROCK. My husband and I were married 32 years and he was my soulmate. I can't seem to concentrate or function. Depression and major anxiety are taking over. I tried to go back to work but people didn't truly understand and treated me like the plaque. I stopped working again due to pain and stress. My heart is so broken as this just happened at the end of 2016. Hard to go on day in and day out. Trying hard for the sake of my daughter but I have many panic attacks that feel like heart attacks. Tried counseling but to painful. Plus no good advise and I already know the same things they try to tell you. Need help.CJF.
Chrisse - 24-Jun-17 @ 11:16 PM
Carol - Your Question:
I lost my Dad suddenly on Saturday, May 6, 2017. My Mother and I truly believe he died of a broken heart. My brother passed away from alcohol addiction on August 9, 2016. My father has been grief stricken ever since. I think he thought he could save my brother. Having back-to-back deaths has been devastating. While I have returned to work this week, in all honestly, all I want to do is go to sleep and not wake up. I know I will eventually start to feel better. But right now I feel like a zombie.

Our Response:
We hope you soon start to feel less numb. Please talk to someone via an organisation like CRUSE or a local support group though. Take care.
FacingBereavement - 17-May-17 @ 11:05 AM
I lost my Dad suddenly on Saturday, May 6, 2017. My Mother and I truly believe he died of a broken heart. My brother passed away from alcohol addiction on August 9, 2016. My father has been grief stricken ever since. I think he thought he could save my brother. Having back-to-back deaths has been devastating. While I have returned to work this week, in all honestly, all I want to do is go to sleep and not wake up. I know I will eventually start to feel better. But right now I feel like a zombie.
Carol - 15-May-17 @ 6:36 PM
It all started just over 8 months ago. I was 27. My dad, Scott, was killed in a tragic motorcycle accident on August 27, 2016. His funeral was on the 2nd of September. Me and my younger sister took it really hard. We have no other siblings and our parents had been divorced for about 6 years at that time. Our mom is slightly unstable to say the least, our dad was our rock. On top of everything else me and my husband, RJ, of 8 years were dealing with the fact that his dad, Joe, wasn't going to be around much longer. My father in law was 80 years old and had a lot of health problems including dimentia. My mother in law, Linda, was the one who took care of him and spent every day with him. We all lived together, my in laws, husband, two daughters and me. Linda died suddenly on Christmas Eve 2016, of heart failure. Nearly 4 months after my dad. Her service was January 2nd, 2017. Joe got worse every day after that. Some days the dimentia was so bad he didn't even know who we were. It was heartbreaking to watch and deal with. Joe passed away February 25, 2017. His funeral was March 2nd 2017. Within 6 months we lost 3 of our parents. They all died on Saturdays.
AlyKat - 3-May-17 @ 12:16 AM
I am 56 and strugglingl. My losses started when my mom fell and broke her hip. Things did not go well and the result was complete dementia and pushed forward her Parkinson. Ten days later, a large truck ran a red light and struck my husbands vehicle.(We had been together for 34 years.)Fifteen days later my husband still laid unresponsive, still on a vent,septic, with gangrene in all of his extremities. We had talked many times on what to do if either one of us was ever faced with this. I had the vent removed and held him as died. (although the process only lasted about 10 minutes.- watching his struggle was overwhelming.)My dad (an old farmer, would not leave my moms side) continue to care for mom's overwhelming needs at home. I received a phone call 70 days later that he had suffered a fatal heart attack. An issue that was unknown. Now we had to deal with mom. She no longer knew us and impossible to be kept at home. So 6 months after the death of my husband, we moved mom to a nursing facility.Now 9 months have passed and mom died a couple of months ago.In the course of 1 year and 5 days. I have lost all those people that I was closest too.The loss of my husband - my rock, my anchor first has left me to seek harbor. The person who would have helped me through the losses is gone - in traumatic fashion.I thought I was doing "ok" But, now I have crashed and burned into depression and anxiety. Going to a doctor now. Meds and counseling. Really tired. Just want to find a life.A widower friend so perfectly stated the feeling "I hate the loneliness that is now life."
TLR - 19-Apr-17 @ 4:18 PM
Dear Jo, I am not sure if you would read this - i lost my sister on 31st March 2017 due to a cardio pulmonary failure or that's what doctors say - she was just vomiting when i took her to emergency for rehydration treatment but didn't take her back home alive. My mom had passed away a year earlier due to hemorrhagic stroke - Life makes little sense and fear of losing a remaining loved ones lurks in sleeps and throughout the day. The guilt of not having done enough for my sister and mom keeps me from forgiving myself - i keep thinking if i would have done this, then perhaps, the result would have been different. I am torn inside out, wanting to go away with my mom and sister to the other side, yet held on to this life by my small children and their need of me. Just when i was beginning to cope with my mom's loss and move on with my sisters, I am once again back at the beginning of being ripped apart by pain of loss. This feeling of dread doesn't go away and at times i feel i cant cope anymore - the loss and fear of loss seem to be immobilizing me.
Ashaw - 19-Apr-17 @ 12:50 PM
My sister and I were 23 months apart in age.My entire life has centered around my parents, my sister and later my son.She was a stronger and more conservative, more responsible human being in every way.We were like night and day my mother would often say.My family has always been close.My parents were married nearly 50 years and loved each other and us unconditionally.My sister had asthma or so she thought, we later found out she had diagnosed herself for many years.My sister was shy and bashful and very pure.Even at the age of 44 she had never dated nor ever had a boyfriend.When she was diagnosed with cancer, it was already stage 4b. She had cervical cancer that had spread to her lungs.We all believed she would still make it through, but kidney failure took her on 10/22/16 not even three months after wer were told about the cancer.The chemo wreaked havoc in her body.She was such a strong person I felt as though I had lost an arm and the devastation to my parents was crushing and I am physically suffering when I remember the sound of their cries when we were told she would not live through that weekend.I didn't live at home, moved out 12 years ago... But the three of them had always lived together.My sister's best friends were my parents.The affect her death had on them was visibly obvious.I was extremely concerned about whether or not they could survive losing my sister.It wasn't 6 weeks after that my mom called me hysterical, screaming that my dad had suffered a heart attack.I asked if he was ok, and never expected to hear her answer "Noooooo!"When I realized the paramedics had been trying to revive him for more than 20 minutes, my heart sank.I couldn't wrap my head around the loss of them both for me and my son.... But even more shattered at the incomprehensible amount of heartache and sadness that we were left with.Even imagining how this must be for my mom I break down.I am overwhelmed by the reality of what has happened and what life will be like from now on.I am terrified that my mom, now 70 years old, will be taken from me and at the same time terrified something might happen to me and what that would put her through.I am so depressed.
Jo - 6-Feb-17 @ 11:33 AM
Hi. I'm so pleased that I found this page as I feel I'm sometimes losing my mind. My MIL passed away unexpectedly in March 2014. We all thought she was getting better. We got on so well and I miss her so much. Eight months later in Nov 2014 my dad passed away with a massive heart attack. He was at work just like normal. I still can't quite believe it has happened even though I know he's not here. Six months later in May 2015, one of my closest friends who I chatted to most days passed away from cancer. I've spent the last couple.of years trying to rebuild my life and trying not to lose my mind for the sake of my children and family. I wasn't sure if I'd been over reacting and I really ought to have been feeling better sooner. It's been two years since my dad passed and I'm beginning to feel 'normal' again. I can see progress in my feeing am emotions.The next thing I want to do is to visit the resting place of my friend and then I'll feel as though I worked through everything. Thanks for reading this far.
Rosie - 29-Nov-16 @ 12:18 PM
Kc - Your Question:
My mum in law died in Nov my mum Dec my dad 8 days later in January, my son in law February and now my estranged husband of 23 years. Beginning to think my family is cursed. Our poor children have seen so much sorrow this last 7 months, having to support them in their grief has worn me down to nothing. We haven't had chance to grieve each one before another passes, we've come to dread that late night/early morning phone call

Our Response:
Goodness what a lot to have to cope with. We really recommend that you and your children contact one of the many excellent bereavement organisations and charities in the UK like CRUSE . You can also do a search for bereavement support groups in your area which will enable you to talk about your own feelings. Do also try and make some occasions both with and without your children, to celebrate the lives of your loved ones individually...cry and laugh while you remember them and what they meant to you. Take care.
FacingBereavement - 9-Jun-16 @ 10:46 AM
My mum in law died in Nov my mum Dec my dad 8 days later in January, my son in law February and now my estranged husband of 23 years. Beginning to think my family is cursed. Our poor children have seen so much sorrow this last 7 months, having to support them in their grief has worn me down to nothing. We haven't had chance to grieve each one before another passes, we've come to dread that late night/early morning phone call
Kc - 8-Jun-16 @ 8:40 AM
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